Scattering ashes at sea, on a river or lake is great way to give a loved one a really nice send-off and research suggests that those who scatter in this way find the presence of water, after that, very comforting.
Scattering ashes at sea
If you choose the sea then then you should aware that:
- For the UK you do not need a licence to spread ashes in tidal coastal water.
- For the USA you need to go out three nautical miles and then inform the EPA – Guidance
Scattering ashes on a River or Lake
If you choose a river you should be aware that the English Environment Agency say ‘It is acceptable’ with some provisos (download this leaflet – scattering ashes on rivers) – basically look out for others and don’t put anything in the river that will not degrade eg plastics.
Where to scatter
You can choose to scatter the ashes from a boat or the shoreline / riverbank. The choice is yours and each has it advantages…
From a boat: if you have access to a boat you can do it yourself . If not, we can help we work with a number of boat companies that operate across the UK. Here is a map of them – Boats on a Map
Advantages for a boat – no chance of being intruded upon, it is more private and you can reach more inaccessible places. Likely to feel more of an occasion.
From the waters edge: on a beach, a bridge or the rivers edge – all make good venues, but be mindful of others and tide times, it is best to scatter the ashes below the tide line: tide times
Advantages for a shore line – no additional cost, choose your own timings and duration, no chance of seasickness!
If scattering ashes on water, particularly from a boat you may wish consider getting an water urn or container fit for the purpose.
There are two main reason for this:
- The water is always breezy and the finer ash particles get caught in the gusts and very often blow back and stick to the side of the boat.
- The right sort urn will float for while and gently submerge below the surface allowing time to reflect or say some words. You can go to our page water urns. You may also wish to cast dried petals which is a nice touch when scattering over the waves. To pass on final farewells we can provide Promises – notelets made from specialist paper that dissolve in the water allowing you to say those final words.
How to scatter ashes
If you choose a beach the most appropriate option might be Trenching or Beaching. If you pick the correct time and beach it can be great, we would suggest a sandy beach and spot below the high tide line, carve a groove a shape or symbol in sand such as a heart shape or their initials. A gardening paddle hoe works well for this. Sprinkle the ashes into the trench, cover if you wish and wait until the tide washes the ashes it away.
- Don’t do it above the high tide line, if you are not sure where this is, look for the line of seaweed and debris near the top of the beach
- Try to stay away from the beach entry / exit point.
- Keep the urn fairly low, below waist height
- Make sure party members are up wind if there is a breeze
- You can add even more solemnity to it by choosing sunrise or sunset and you are less likely to be disturbed
For more information different ways go to our Methods Page
Keepsakes and Mementos
Some people find scattering the ashes too final and too difficult to deal with, we have a range of ideas on keeping a little of the ashes back and kept in a discreet keepsake, these two are probably the most appropriate: Oil candle or Glass Wave
|How helpful is this page?|
Scattering ashes at sea